{"id":5584,"date":"2017-12-02T14:36:29","date_gmt":"2017-12-02T06:36:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/primer.com.ph\/tips-guides\/?p=5584"},"modified":"2021-07-14T10:12:03","modified_gmt":"2021-07-14T02:12:03","slug":"expats-guide-to-pamamanhikan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/primer.com.ph\/tips-guides\/2017\/12\/02\/expats-guide-to-pamamanhikan\/","title":{"rendered":"A Guide to Pamamanhikan"},"content":{"rendered":"

In Filipino culture, lovers would go through a lot of stages before actually calling it official. There\u2019s the panliligaw <\/em>or courtship stage, the harana<\/em> or serenading, the old-fashioned love letters, and many other things that will make you feel all gooey and helplessly in love. Then, after all this, there\u2019s pamamanhikan<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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Once a couple decides to tie the knot, traditionally, pamamanhikan<\/em> is done by the man and his family to formally ask the woman’s family for her hand in marriage. Old-fashioned as it is, pamamanhikan <\/em>is a tradition that helps bring the couple’s families closer, which is especially important in a very family-oriented society like the Philippines.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re marrying a Filipino woman and thinking of a way to bring her a surge of butterflies and at the same time win her family over, show your sincerity by doing it the old-fashioned way! To give you an idea, here\u2019s what usually happens during the pamamanhikan <\/em>stage.<\/p>\n

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Offering gifts<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pamamanhikan <\/em>is usually done in the evening or at dinnertime. The man takes his parents with him and visits the woman\u2019s home. To make good impressions, the man brings some gifts, usually food and drinks, for the woman and her family.<\/p>\n

Discussing marriage plans<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pamamanhikan<\/em> is also the time for you and your fiancee to share your plans with the whole family. Hear everyone out when they give suggestions. By doing this, the two families, especially the parents, feel involved and more supportive of your plans.<\/p>\n

Listening to the old folks\u2019 advice<\/strong><\/p>\n

The man and the woman’s parents would certainly have a lot of wisdom to share with regard to marriage. Listen to them sincerely and, although you may not agree with everything, let them know that you appreciate their advice.<\/p>\n

Bonding with the future in-laws<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you get married, you will then be a part of a bigger family.\u00a0Pamamanhikan<\/em> is the perfect time for you and your partner to get to know your future in-laws and strengthen your relationship with them.<\/p>\n

Have you tried <\/em>pamamanhikan? Share with us your experience in the comments below!<\/em><\/p>\n

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Written by Rizelle “Rei” Lea\u00f1o<\/span>
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